Don't fix me

I'm having one of those days when you just don't even want to get out of bed because you know it will just be one of those days. I want to talk to hubby about stuff, but I don't because I know he will try to fix it. His most recent catch phrase is "What can I do to help you?" How about just listen...you can't do this for me...the best thing you can do is nothing. Even my teen son has gotten in on the act now...he's afraid I'm going to Hell because I don't have the same religious beliefs as him. He's paranoid that his mother will burn because she doesn't go to church. He's becoming the Sunday Bible-thumper, who cusses like a sailor and gets into fights through the rest of the week. What's worse is he doesn't seem to believe that there is anything wrong with that...as long as his fights are all about 'protecting people from the bullies.' The language is irrelevant, and what's wrong with calling your sister stupid anyway...

Don't get me wrong, his motives are important...and if he really can't get away from fighting, I'd rather he stood up for himself...but he doesn't seem to see that there are sometimes (usually) alternatives to throwing punches...and he doesn't see the hypocrisy of his bullying his sister...I suppose it's all age-appropriate, but it is frustrating...particularly when he turns his I'm-out-to-save-the-universe attitude on me...don't fix me...don't try to parent me...I have parents, and no one wants to be 'fixed'

I could say the same thing to the hubby...it makes me feel like you see me as a wounded puppy when you try to solve all my problems...sometimes I just want to vent...unless I ask you to help, don't...that doesn't mean don't help with household chores...that means don't try to fix me...I'm not a child...